Thanks to you all -
Adding the gateway did the trick with one note to others -
I also had to map the bridge directly to my network SSID even though the bridge instructions say you can leave it in the default connect to any mode.
After that minor change I was all set.
So to help out those who want to set theirs up - here are the steps I followed for my gear (router type described in first topic above).
First I connected up the bridge to my laptop (XL) using the crossover cable.
Then I had to go to the TCP/Ip properties for this connection and set it to a static IP adress:
I set the IP Adress to 192.168.0.2 and set the Subnet to 255.255.255.0
(Hint - if you can't figure out which connection is the one hooked up to the bridge, just unplug the crossover cable from your NIC and watch the status)
I then opened up a browser and typed in 192.168.0.2 in the address bar and a password screen comes up - just type in admin in the user ID - no password & click OK
Under the wireless tab, modify the settings per the instructions - this is where I had to enter my wireless routers SSID rather than accepting the default per the instructions.
You will then be prompted to reset the bridge - go ahead & do this
Then I moved over to my Audery and followed the above instructions -
Hint - to get to the place to add in the gateway addres youy need to click on Audrey Options, Internet settings then click on the Advanced info box. This will bring up a screen to enter in DNS info etc. Uncheck the use ppp/dhcp button and you will see a space to enter in the gateway info - enter in 192.168.0.2 in this spot and then click out of this window. You don't need to add any other info.
That plus about a minute of waiting did the trick.
One other note: The DWL-810 uses a 5-volt DC, 2.5AMP power input, so it looks like it would be possible to pull power off of the 5.0 volt portion of the audrey power supply if you wanted to reduce the number of cords hanging around or even try to add wireless internally or to the back of the unit (though I have not verified the power utilization of Audrey and the 810 combined versus the output of the Audrey power supply - could be bad news if you over-draw the audrey powersupply).
Good luck to others - my two audrey's are now wireless for $39 each (recent ebay price).
Thanks again to those who replied - it did the trick