fgiurleo:
now you found the joy of buying sight unseen.
is this 'strange connector' mounted to a plastic or metal housing attached with screws to the metal teac case? if so, you may find a laptop size ide connector when you take off this metal housing.
if this strange connector is mounted directly to the circuit board in the cd rom, you will need to go looking in some catalogs of the big electronics suppliers like Digikey for the connector, but you will still need to find the pin-out diagram for this connector. it may be atapi (ide) interface, but what is the pin-out?
was it removed from a laptop by the seller or was its source unknown? if it was removed from a computer, and you know what brand, you may be able to get the pin-out diagram from them.
i suggest checking if you can get your money back on a return or write it off as a loss if you do not want to go to all that work.
stand by for other replies,
oldman