Success!
With a lot of thanks to ttn2 I have a smooth running websurfer with 98se, winamp, musicmatch, browsing the network like a champ!
Tried the irq setting ttn2 gave me and that didn't do it. prom this and other threads it looked like it was a bios problem. flashed the newbios.bin from http://www.geocities.com/d1v3rs1ty/ and that got rid of the splash screen and my nic problems! I followed the settings that were listed in the docs for the bios (very informative and helpful) and booted up and double clicked on netwrk neighborhood and saw the whole network... no more error messages. I have been running it for 16hours now playing a loop of all of the foofighters albums and it is still running now, smooth with no skips unless I mess around while they are playing.
1 problem though there is a discoloration on the right and left sides of the screen (looks like wen you get a magnet too close) anyone had this problem? I haven't narrowed it down ye but it looks like it goes away when you shut off winamp... strange.
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